It is not a joke when they say life is a teacher. It most definitely is.
In your journey of life, you tend to step on a lot of stones. But when all the stones that you have stepped till now has been firm and ones that have taken you to heights, you naturally tend to forget that there might be some stone that is loosened. Some stone that might give way when you step on it, throwing you down if you are not careful. Always the first time that you encounter these kind of stones will be the hardest. Because you neither expected it nor know how to handle yourself when it happens.
Once the first fall happens and you somehow recover from it kicking and screaming, you pick up a whole lot of maturity and experience from down there where you fell. No matter whether you want it or not, the experience and maturity will rise up along with you while you stand up from your fall. It is inevitable.
Once you stand up, you introspect. You figure out a few things. You see the flaw in certain things and learn a few lessons. After everything, being a better man than you were yesterday, you continue with your life. This post is about a few things that I learned on my first fall, which happened quite recently.
The first and foremost would be that whenever someone else’s life becomes intertwined with something/anything that you do, then you should give care and thought to your actions. You are free to toy, experiment and play with life as much as you want, as long as it is yours. Most of the time, just because of the fact that you won’t give much thought to what you are doing, you tend to forget that your actions could affect other’s lives too. These “others” can be anyone from the low life vermin who is the saddest excuse for a human being on Earth, to someone who is the epitome of goodness and perfection of the human race. The only thing that matters is that it is the other person’s life.
I speak here from my experience. When my fall happened, it was due to me doing something I was passionate about. Me writing my blog. The damage had been done and I was slowly helping myself to stand up. However, a few thoughts popped up in my head that said what I did was right as long as I was passionately following what I did. Giving much thought to that idea, I finally came up with the conclusion that it was not so. The “Let them say what they want, I don’t give a care and I’m going to do what I love” attitude is not the way to go as long as what you do has had an effect on others.
I say so because then, you are using your passion as an excuse for not assuming responsibility for your actions. Whenever anything that you do is used as an excuse for something in the slightest sense, then the genuineness with which you do that is compromised. This applies to a wide range of activities that you do in your daily life and when you think about it, most of times you will be just making excuses, to yourself as well as to others.
Having realized that, the next thing that occurred to me is that whenever you see something that is not right, something that needs to be rectified, diplomacy is the key to making it correct. If the best strategy that you can come up with is to just gripe about it, then that makes you no less different than the others who are doing nothing in trying to rectify that wrong. Although a bit too ideal, the words “Be the change that you want to see in the world” makes sense. If you see something wrong and that something being wrong is actually bothering you, consider it your problem and hack at it real slow instead of griping about no one doing anything about fixing it.
In case you haven’t noticed, everyone is good at griping about no one correcting the wrongs and everyone is a master when it comes to putting the blame on others. If that is basically what you have done too, no matter what approach you took in doing it, then in the end, you’re no different from the rest.
It is rarely the case that you have to approach the problem in an extreme manner. Only the impatient and weak willed adopt that approach as it is expected to bring about sudden changes. I do not know how effective such changes are or how long they would last, but if you really have a strong character as well as a strong will, you slowly, patiently and diplomatically approach it. It will never be easy, but then again, who said life is going to be easy?
Having stepped on the first loose stone in my Journey, I’m still not experienced enough to identify such stones by looking at them. Nor am I experienced in raising myself from the fall. But now I know to expect not all stones that lay my path are firm. Treachery and disguise hides in between. I learn to be more careful.